As you may know, from some of my other posts, I absolutely adore Gala Darling. I recently signed up for her Dare/Dream/Do and Radical Self Love Boot Camp programs and am working my way through the essays, tips and worksheets. Before I get super into this, I have to say she is no longer offering these programs as of two days ago! :( :( I know, sad faces.... BUT there are plans she has set in motion for new things that I am beyond excited about.
Before I continue down that rabbit hole, let's jump up to that quote at the top of this post. "Life is too short not to feel delight on the daily!", from the lovely Gala Darling. This week has been a rough go at figuring out my personal patterns and the constant work to change them. As a result, I have been a bit too hard on myself; then this gorgeous reminder from Gala.
We have to remind ourselves, as we improve ourselves, that change doesn't happen over night. It's similar to a change in your fitness or nutrition regime. If we change too much too soon we are likely to fail. We must start small and keep practicing. It's the same idea when we are trying to change habits in our speech, thought process and personal patterns.
We have to give ourselves some credit where credit is due! Reward yourself by first noticing the negative habit and making an active choice NOT to repeat your negative patterns. Each small step is a win!
Catch yourself before you fall into some negative self talk? Pat yourself on the back or better yet, give yourself a hug! Not only will these rewards help you to keep making the needed pattern changes, it's bound to boost your self esteem too. It's a little love note to yourself each time.
So delight yourself, you deserve it. Be happy with your wins and enjoy today. Here are some little delights you can add to your day:
Off to reward myself with a cup of coffee!
<3 - Jenn Rose
Part of my search for being an empowered female super star has led me to taking some Burlesque classes and workshops. I have been a fan of Ithaca's Whiskey Tango Side Show for several years and now they've created the Empire Burlesque Festival! Boy, do these fancy ladies put on a fun show!
Let's get right down to it! The Empire Burlesque Fest. is a two day festival with workshops during the day led by the head liners of the nightly shows (say what?!). Last year was the first Empire Burlesque Festival so they only offered two classes on Saturday. This year there were five workshops offered throughout Friday and Saturday. Then of course during the shows some of the dancers/artists vend their wares. ;) Usually handmade pasties, shirts, hair accessories, undies and some times custom bras.
I couldn't get the time off to attend the Friday workshops with Red Hot Annie and Danielle Saint Velvet, of Whiskey Tango, BUT Eric and I made it to town for the first night's show! It featured members of Whiskey Tango, Queen Bootyca, Mister Twister, Eye Candy Burlesque, Red Hot Annie and many more! Friday's headliner was Lil Steph from Philadelphia, PA (to the right). She was also my teacher for one of the Saturday workshops, Booty and the Boa. As always, it was a great show.
Non-festival related Saturday events consisted of checking out of our Air BNB, which I highly recommend, and grabbing breakfast over at Ithaca Bakery. We stopped at the Ithaca Farmer's Market to enjoy the sights, artwork and the sunshine peaking through the clouds. Before I headed off to the workshops, I dropped my husband off over at the Ithaca Beer Company. Not a bad place to hang for a couple hours while your wife is out dancing!
As mentioned earlier one of the Saturday workshops was Booty and the Boa with Lil Steph. We were all given practice boas to dance with, while Steph has one that was about three times her size! We learned a few tricks for moving the draping of the boa on our body and worked on some booty moves!
The other workshop was titled Struts, Bumps, Grinds, and Shimmies with Angie Pontani. Angie hails from New York City and was the headliner for the Saturday night show. I enjoyed the attention to detail in the way she taught. At one point she even went around to check everyone's form in a pose before moving on to the next one. She taught us a few specific moves and then put it all together into a mini choreography.
We grabbed dinner quick at the Bandwagon Brew Pub, always a favorite of ours, before heading over to the Saturday night show. Angie Pontani, Pearls Daily, Penny Dreadful, Janna Deadly, last year's head liner Calamity Chang and many more delighted the stage. Once again Whiskey Tango hit it out of the park.
Thanks for a lovely weekend get-away! Already looking forward to what next year will bring.
Let's get really real for a minute here. The farther I get into my personal development I am finding it is so easy to fall down that slippery slope and jump back to my comfort zone instead of trail blazing forward! I'm sure, I'm not alone in this?
It's human nature to want to feel comfort and living in that space is nice and cozy BUT we are not growing in that space. To keep growing we need to first call ourselves out on taking the "easy way out" instead of working on our goals. Thus "Parent Yourself" comes into play.
If you think of yourself as your own parent, what would a parent say about slacking off on your dreams? You are so worth them! You just need to apply the time and effort. #amirite? So as an adult why do allow ourselves to give up on our dreams and just accept the "norm" because it's comfortable?
WAKE UP! Call yourself on your own sh!t! You know yourself, your habits, your avoidance tendencies and what empowers you. I'm not saying to allow yourself to fall into negative self talk, but if you notice that you are giving up on yourself (your dreams, etc.).... call yourself out.
Be your own parent and set yourself up for success. Set up a "chore chart" or a dream plan in this case to keep your goals at the fore front of your mind. Set up a reward system for completing big goals that keep you moving forward. A lot of those little systems put in play to keep kids "on track" can be used as an adult. Find what motivates you and re-invent it to attack the steps that will make you grow.
Gently calling myself out,